March 12, 2010

Marilyn 'Dee' Gould, 85, advocate for psychiatric patients' kinOBITUARIES


Each day the newsroom selects one obituary and seeks to learn more about the life of a person who has lived and worked in Maine. We look for a person who has made a mark on the community or the person's family and friends in lasting ways.FREEPORT — Marilyn ''Dee'' Gould, a retired psychiatric social worker at Maine Medical Center in Portland, was someone people could turn to for guidance, support and encouragement, her family said Friday.

Mrs. Gould, who died Wednesday at age 85, worked on P6 at the hospital for 12 years, retiring in 1990. Barbara L. Gould of Lincolnville, one of her four children, said she was a great advocate for families and worked tirelessly to provide a support system for her patients.

''She was a great listener,'' her daughter said. ''She loved her work. She made everyone feel like they were the most important person in the room. She was a very giving person, generous and warm-hearted.''

In addition to her work at the psychiatric unit, Mrs. Gould did consultations in MMC's emergency room and burn units. She also worked with individuals learning to become hospice volunteers.

She and her husband of 62 years, Charles S. Gould, met on a blind date at a dance hall. The date didn't turn out exactly as she expected, her husband said.

''I told her dancing was against my religion,'' he said. ''After the little episode, I went back to my ship in New York and decided to send her a telegram: 'Venus and Jupiter will be out Saturday night. What about us?' She sent me a telegram asking for a rain check. I said I would bring my umbrella.''

The truth is that Mr. Gould couldn't dance.

Mrs. Gould and her husband enjoyed boating and sailing around Casco Bay. Her husband reflected on the secret to the longevity of their marriage.

''It was her patience. She could put Job to shame,'' her husband said. ''We had an excellent marriage. We had a very good life.''

Mrs. Gould was remembered as someone who always kept her door open to family and friends.

''She touched so many people by her open heart and open arms,'' her daughter said.

''My mother was a lot of fun. She taught us to embrace diversity and quirkiness. I admired her inner strength. She was the rock, yet she was very soft. She was solid, yet very sentimental.''

For the past 30 years, the Gould family has held an annual family gathering called ''August Fest.'' Roughly 30 to 40 family members gather at the Gould home in Freeport. Mrs. Gould, who was known for her organization and planning, made all of the arrangements. Her daughter said she was the family's glue.

''This was home base. She was the core of the family. She lived for August Fest,'' her daughter said. ''She was in her glory while we were here.''

-- Melanie Creamer

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