April 19, 2011

Scene & Heard: 'I can help'

By Avery Yale Kamila akamila@mainetoday.com
Staff Writer

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Interim CEO Mary Jane Krebs, Heart of Gold award winner Kate Braestrup and Major General John Libby of the Maine National Guard.

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Heroes with Heart award winners Lt. Aaron Osgood of the Portland Fire Department and Office Rocco Navarro of the South Portland Police Department, with Frank Navarro, Rocco's dad and a member of the Portland Fire Department.

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“The TIP folks are amazing,” Ontengco said. “It relieves the (medical) staff to go back and take care of the patient.”

The 38 TIP volunteers gave more than 10,000 hours of their time last year. Additional volunteers are always needed.

“There’s a large need,” board member Cindy Libby told me. “We have programs for veterans, immigrants, children and elders. Our program is very broad.”

Leslie Skillin-Calder, who trains the TIP volunteers, told me about the commitment and service these people provide to the community.

“The background of our volunteers is varied,” Skillin-Calder said. “Students, business owners, homemakers. It takes a willingness to put yourself aside and care for someone in a crisis. It does take a special person to do it.”

Following an extensive initial training program, the volunteers then commit to serving three 12-hour shifts each month, plus a three-hour monthly training session.

One of the organization’s longest-serving volunteers is Sandy Grubb of South Portland, who has been part of the program for five and a half of the six years it’s been in operation. She told me what most of us would say to someone in a crisis, the “it’s going to be OK” type of statement, is the absolute wrong thing to say to someone experiencing tragedy.

“I don’t know how many times I say, ‘I’m so sorry,’ ” Grubb told me. “And often I just need to be silent with them. You come and bring that calm to the storm.”

She and the other volunteers help families understand there are many ways to grieve. While one person may sob, another may want to punch a wall and another may just need to sit in shocked silence.

It’s the TIP volunteer’s job to be present with the person and offer comfort and assistance navigating the system.

“After each call,” Grubb told me, “I walk away knowing that I just made their personal 9/11 a little bit easier.”

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Avery Yale Kamila photo: Gabrielle Grub and her mother and TIP volunteer Sandy Grubb, who both live in South Portland.

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Spring Harbor Hospital CEO Dennis King and board member Dick Aronson, who owns Century Tire.

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Members of the South Portland Professional Firefighters Honor Guard kicked off the after-dinner program. They are Commander Rob Simmons, Jon Perry, Josh Perry, Chris Swenson and Howard Sterling, who received a Heroes with Heart award.

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