December 16, 2012

Author Q & A: Laughing all the way

The author's wit enlivens 'The Irreverent Widow,' but writing about her husband's death and her adventures since was a sometimes tough and emotional journey.

By Bob Keyes
Staff Writer

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Sandi Amorello of Cape Elizabeth says she wrote “The Irreverent Widow” because after her husband died, she “could not find a book that was uplifting and had humor in it.”

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Q: After I moved beyond the first few pages, I was struck by the humor. This must have been fun to write, once you addressed Drew's death and your grief.

A: I've always had a sense of humor. Drew and I connected a lot on our shared sense of humor. When he was going through his ordeal with cancer, he would make jokes while we were sitting at Dana-Farber (Cancer Institute in Boston).

That obviously was an incredibly serious situation, but I used to say, if he had terminal cancer and still had things to laugh about, I can stay on that route after he is gone. That is what he would want.

There is just no other way for me to deal with life than with finding those tidbits of humor to pull you through to the next day. 

Q: What is it about guys? Some of your stories suggest there are no good men out there.

A: Oh my goodness, that's really a tough one. I will just say, Drew told me he wanted me to have someone. I had no guilt about moving forward. I was not looking for someone to marry. I just needed to do something to make me feel alive.

My fear at first was that I was not going to find any nice men. It restored my faith in humanity that I did find many nice men. The hard thing is to find that spark.

I've had a lot of humorous experiences. Dating with kids in the mix is not the easiest of things to accomplish. 

Q: Why did you move to Maine?

A: I moved here in summer 2005. Drew died in our house, and we had to move for our mental health. We lived outside of Boston, and we always wanted to be close to the ocean. I knew I needed to be closer to the ocean.

The first two men I dated for more than one or two dates were both from Maine. It was very interesting. I got to come up here during the holiday time. It was just magical. It was snowing and I was walking around on the cobblestones, and I felt a lot of warmth. I thought, "This is a magical place." I could see myself living here.

I didn't move here because of a man. But being able to spend time here during the different seasons just drew me.

Staff Writer Bob Keyes can be contacted at 791-6457 or:

Twitter: pphbkeyes


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