December 2, 2013

Details emerge about victim in Westbrook murder-suicide

Friends of Matthew Rairdon react with shock to his death Saturday at the hands of a former boyfriend.

By Joe Lawlor
Staff Writer

And Matt Byrne

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Matthew Rairdon, left, and Patrick Milliner pose together in January.

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“Yea(h), I’m not a fan of lobster, and I root against the (Boston) Bruins and Red Sox, but I do love blueberries and I really love me some New England Patriots. I visited and worked in Maine for the first time in 2009. I fell in love with its natural beauty, its people, and I knew I would make it there someday. I am SO excited!” Milliner wrote in a June 4 Facebook post.

Milliner also wrote on Sept. 2: “One of my favorite memories in Maine so far was watching family videos with his family today. Still smiling – with Matt Rairdon.”

A state police spokesman said the state medical examiner’s office was performing autopsies Sunday on both men, and more details about the crime would become known this week.

Although authorities did not pinpoint when Rairdon and Milliner split up, the period after a breakup is considered the most dangerous, especially if one partner has access to or recently purchased a gun, said Julia Colpitts, executive director of the Maine Coalition to End Domestic Violence. In the most recent review of domestic violence homicides in Maine, spanning 2010 to 2011, nine of the 13 perpetrators examined exhibited suicidal tendencies before they acted, with six killing themselves after killing an intimate partner.

Both Colpitts and Reckitt lauded police in their respectful handling of the case in light of the same-sex nature of the relationship.

“There was no snickering,” Reckitt said. “I’ve been doing this work for 35 years, and it hasn’t always been this way.”

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