Monday, December 9, 2013
By Bob Keyes email@example.com
CAPE ELIZABETH — It’s an angry day on the coast, with a heavy wind whipping up an agitated sea. Large swells of water churn toward the rocks and crash on the shore just outside the windows of Millicent Monks’ sprawling mansion.
Millicent Monks talks about her new book, “Songs of Three Islands,” that reveals her extended family’s struggles with mental illness.
John Ewing/Staff Photographer
Inside, all is calm. Classical music plays softly on a distant radio.
Monks, 77, excuses herself to lower the volume, and the clap-clap-clap of her footfall on the hard-surface floor bounces in the cavernous room. She resumes her seat at a table covered by a yellow tablecloth and places several pages of orderly handwritten notes at her side.
“It’s my fault, I guess,” Monks says, with an enormous laugh that belies her otherwise soft voice. “I just sort of take a deep breath and wonder how this all happened. I’ve just sort of got to focus and say, ‘Well, if I can be of help to other families and other people, then that makes it worthwhile.’ ”
It’s been more than two months since her memoir, “Songs of Three Islands,” has been in bookstores. The book, published by Atlas & Co. in late June, pulls back a many-generation veil of secrecy and reveals the toll of mental illness on an iconic American family.
Monks’ great-grandfather was the brother of industrialist Andrew Carnegie. For many years, she and her husband, Bobby, have lived in Cape Elizabeth on a family compound that includes many homes and dozens of immediate and extended family members.
Despite its enormous fortune, the family has been riven by tragedies stemming from mental illness that has passed from one generation to another.
FROM PRIVATE TO PUBLIC
The title of the book refers to three coastal locations central to Monks and her family: Cumberland Island off the Georgia-Florida coast, where Monks’ mother lived much of her life and where Monks spent considerable time a young woman; the family compound in Cape Elizabeth, which she calls Crescent Island in the book to protect her family’s privacy; and an island off the Downeast coast near Canada, which has become the spiritual base for her and her husband and will serve as the couple’s final resting place.
Reaction to the book has been strong and swift, and placed the famously private Monks squarely in the spotlight of public consumption.
Reporters, talk-show hosts and others eager to discuss the story have been calling. Mental health professionals have praised her courage for speaking out and invited her to New York, Washington, D.C., and elsewhere to share her story.
Most gratifying for Monks, she has heard from hundreds of people whose families have endured similar suffering. That’s why she wrote the book and put such a public face on what until now has been her private horror.
She hopes her decision to go public with her story will help others seek the help they need to put the pain of mental illness behind them and live healthier and happier lives.
“I think I am comfortable with the reaction,” she said, pausing to consider her words. “I am sort of surprised. I wasn’t expecting this when I wrote the book. I have close to 400 letters and e-mails from people, and mostly from people who have had terrible mental illness in their family. If writing the book helps in any way, if I can help in any way, that makes me feel the book was worthwhile writing.”
These secrets have been held close. Some of the couple’s closest friends knew the family history, and for years Monks was deeply involved in Portland’s arts community through her association with the now-defunct Ram Island Dance, which she founded and championed. Folks in the arts community knew at least shades of her story.
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