BAGHDAD — Within hours of last week’s Paris attacks, as outrage and sympathy flooded his social media feeds and filled the airwaves, Baghdad resident Ali al-Makhzomy updated his Facebook cover photo to read “solidarity” – and his friends were shocked.

“Everyone was like, ‘Why are you posting about Paris and not about the attacks in Baghdad every day,’ ” the recent law school graduate said. “A lot of my friends said, ‘OK, so you care more about them than you care about us?’ ”

He had unintentionally tapped into frustration in Iraq, Lebanon and Syria with what many see as a double-standard: The world unites in outrage and sympathy when the Islamic State group kills Westerners, but pays little attention to the near-daily atrocities it carries out in the Middle East.

The day before the Paris attacks, twin suicide bombers struck a southern Beirut suburb, killing at least 43 people, and on Friday a suicide bomber struck a funeral in Iraq, killing at least 21. Both attacks were claimed by the IS group and reported by major media outlets, but generated little interest outside the region, where the turmoil of recent years has made such events seem like a sadly regular occurrence.

Baghdad has seen near-daily attacks in recent years, mainly targeting the security forces and the country’s Shiite majority. Bombings killed an average of more than 90 civilians a month last year, according to Iraq Body Count, a United Kingdom-based group that documents civilian deaths in Iraq.

The civil war in neighboring Syria has killed 250,000 people since 2011. There, government warplanes regularly carry out raids using so-called barrel bombs that demolish entire apartment blocks, and insurgent groups shell government-held neighborhoods.

Lebanon, however, had been relatively calm for the past year, leading many to feel that last week’s tragedy was unfairly neglected. Many were angered by Facebook’s deployment of a new feature in the wake of the Paris attacks that allowed users to check in and say they were safe. The feature was not available for the Beirut attacks.

“‘We’ don’t get a safe button on Facebook,” Lebanese blogger Joey Ayoub wrote. “We don’t get late-night statements from the most powerful men and women alive and millions of online users.”

Facebook released a statement saying it had previously only used the Safety Check feature after natural disasters and that it would be used for “other serious and tragic incidents in the future.”

But it added that “during an ongoing crisis, like war or epidemic, Safety Check in its current form is not that useful for people: because there isn’t a clear start or end point and, unfortunately, it’s impossible to know when someone is truly ‘safe.’ ”

In the U.S., social media shaming also played out on Facebook, Twitter and other channels in the aftermath of Paris over the use of a tool that shades profile photos to resemble the French flag. Other social media users object to a sea of vacation selfies at the Eiffel Tower being posted as a show of solidarity and an expression of “slacktivism,” rather than true social justice commitment.

Kelly Hayes, 34, is an activist of color in Chicago and a community engagement fellow for the progressive nonprofit She has received attention online in the aftermath of the Paris attacks for a Nov. 14 post on her year-old blog,, urging an end to the “grief shaming” that is playing out on social media, as it has after other tragedies.

Under the headline, “On the Violence in Paris: Stop the Grief Shaming,” Hayes wrote that the issues of racism, uneven media coverage and the “seeming constancy of some violence” will not be overcome by “judgment or snark” on Facebook, Twitter and other online channels.

“Moments of great empathy are not a social failing. If anything, they are an opportunity to build better and expand our collective compassion. Posts that more or less amount to ‘if you care about this, but didn’t post about (insert tragedy here), I’m judging you’ help nothing and heal nothing,” Hayes wrote.

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