The peace sign, of course, is hand closed, forefinger and middle finger up as in a “V.” I think the whole world recognizes a peace sign. It worked for me.
FAITHFUL READER IN
ARKANSAS
DEAR FAITHFUL READER: I assured “ Mild- Mannered” that my helpful readers would step forward to offer suggestions for an “I’m sorry” signal. And many, like you, mentioned giving the peace sign. Offering more options, my newspaper readers comment:
DEAR ABBY: We New Yorkers have honed silent signals to a fine art. When I’m at fault in traffic or other situations where I can’t apologize verbally, I make eye contact, put my hand to my chest to accuse myself, and put my hands in a prayerful gesture to ask forgiveness. This almost always defuses the situation on the spot. Add a smile and you’ve made a friend as well.
LORNA, IN THE CITY
DEAR ABBY: I, too, have made boo-boos while driving and wish I could have said “I’m sorry,” but the person is usually too busy shaking a fist and screaming what are obviously obscenities to notice. I like the idea of a standard “sorry” gesture.
How about holding one hand up with your palm toward your face for just a second? (As in “I’m ashamed of what I just did.”) It’s simple and lets you keep your other hand on the wheel. CAROL IN HOUSTON
DEAR ABBY: Why not use the American Sign Language symbol for “sorry”? Make a fist with your right hand, palm toward the body and place it over the area of your heart and move it in small circles. Of course, the expression on your face pulls it all together. Sign language is used by many people, and the chance that the person you offended may already be familiar with this sign makes it a great way to convey the sentiment.
SIGN USER IN OLD
LYME, CONN.
DEAR ABBY: If I think the other driver will be able to see me, the gesture I make after a mistake is an exaggerated, slow smack to my forehead — basically, my own Homer Simpson “Doh!”
IN THE WRONG
IN MAINE
DEAR ABBY: “Mild-Mannered Motorist’s” letter reminded me of an incident a few years ago. Driving home from work, I was forced to swerve into an oncoming lane by a car driven by a young woman who was pulling onto the road from a parking lot. She didn’t see me because of traffic in the lane to my right. Fortunately, there were no oncoming vehicles, and I was able to return to my lane and proceed.
At the traffic signal, I noticed the “ offending” car was directly behind me. It continued following me and I started becoming concerned that I had a stalker. Turning into my neighborhood, I quickly drove up my driveway and into my garage. When I got out of the car, the young woman was walking up the driveway. She then began profusely apologizing for having caused a problem for me.
She had driven miles out of her way to offer her apology, which I gratefully accepted. Then we both thanked God for protecting us. I have never seen her again, but I hope she knows I respect her tremendously
PLEASANTLY
SURPRISED IN
NORTH CAROLINA
Write Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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