destroy his or the other boys’ lives. My wife and I had counseling and it helped some. The problem is, I feel like my life has been destroyed and I don’t know what to do.

destroy his or the other boys’ lives. My wife and I had counseling and it helped some. The problem is, I feel like my life has been destroyed and I don’t know what to do.

DEAR ABBY: Thirty years ago when I was an Army officer, my wife “went crazy.” She had an affair and wound up getting pregnant. When I got out of the Army, she saw the man one time more before we moved and got pregnant again! We had a child together later.

When I found out my eldest son didn’t have the correct blood type, I confronted her and she admitted it. I then had all my children tested and realized only the last one is mine. I love the other two as well as my son, and I would not

COUNSELING HELPED … BUT

DEAR C.H.B.: I assume you and your wife had joint counseling after you learned about her repeated infidelities. While your faith in women may have been shaken, your life has not been “destroyed.” Feeling as you do, it’s time for you to PRIVATELY discuss your feelings with another licensed mental health professional. After that, you will be better equipped to rationally decide how to move forward.

DEAR ABBY: My sister-in-law is getting married soon. Originally, she asked my 4-year-old daughter, “Emma,” to be her flower girl. Emma was very excited.

A few weeks ago, I asked when my daughter needed to be fitted for her dress. My sister-in-law then informed me they had chosen my niece to be the flower girl the day after she asked Emma. No one ever mentioned it to us.

It was left to me to tell my daughter, and she was devastated. She still cries about it. I am holding in so much anger and hurt that I have been avoiding the family so there won’t be any fighting close to the “big day.” Am I wrong to be upset with my sister-in-law and mother-inlaw for excluding my little girl and not telling her themselves?

MIFFED IN ALABAMA

DEAR MIFFED: No, you’re not. The way it was handled was extremely insensitive. Your sister-in-law owes you an explanation for what happened and your daughter an apology. Write Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com


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