DEAR HARRIETTE: Is it bad if I do not go to my senior prom? I have thought about it for a while, and I know I won’t regret not going. People keep telling me I have to go, but I have no interest in going to a party and getting all dressed up – plus, there is no one in my school who I have any interest in going with. I am just ready for high school to be over and to start my new life away from my town. I don’t see the problem with that. Is it worth it to force myself to go and be miserable the whole night just so I can say I went to my prom? – Feeling Pressured, Denver

DEAR FEELING PRESSURED: There is no rule saying that you have to go to your prom. If you truly are not interested and are not connected to a friend group that is going, skip it and do something else. Design your own activity for that evening where you celebrate your significant accomplishment of completing high school. By creating your own memory, you fill the potential hole that could be present in the future when you look back on this time in your life.

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DEAR HARRIETTE: My fiancee, “Jenna,” is obsessed with astrology. I am not entirely convinced by the planet mumbo-jumbo, but I like that she is passionate about something so unique. We picked our wedding date and went to see an astrologer. Jenna’s astrologer told us our wedding date is filled with bad omens and that we should change the date. Our invitations have already been printed! I find this to be absurd.

Jenna is now freaking out about our wedding day because she thinks it will be a bad start to our marriage. She’d prefer a date when the planets are aligned. I can barely take this seriously and want to ask her astrologer to change her mind about our wedding date so my bride-to-be can stop dreading what will hopefully be the best day of her life. Is it ethical to bribe my fiancee’s astrologer? – Whole Other Orbit, Dallas

DEAR WHOLE OTHER ORBIT: Bribery is not a good idea. Talking to the astrologer could be good, though. Respectfully request a meeting, and express your concerns – along with your desire to support your wife. Since this is so important to your wife, you cannot take it lightly.

Suggest a loophole. You have to get a marriage license. Pick an auspicious day, in the astrologer’s eyes, for the day that you two get that license. Even consider having a justice of the peace officially marry you at that time. Then your public event will actually not be your formal wedding date. That could solve it!

— Lifestylist and author Harriette Cole is president and creative director of Harriette Cole Media. You can send questions to [email protected] or c/o Universal Uclick, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.