DEAR HARRIETTE: I recently graduated college, and I finally found a job in my field. After eight long months, I can finally say that I have a job doing what I want to do. The only problem is that my dream job requires me to relocate. I’d have to leave Ohio behind and embark on a new journey to Washington, D.C.

Although I am a college graduate, I didn’t stay on campus. I lived with my parents all four years, so leaving for D.C. would be my first time living on my own. My parents are worried and hesitant about me taking the job because I’ve always lived with them. They say that it wouldn’t be as nerve-racking if I left home but stayed in Ohio.

I’ll admit that I’m anxious and nervous as well, but I honestly feel as though it’s time for me to spread my wings. How will I ever become fully independent if I never leave home? I want to figure out how to make it on my own. This is my dream job in the field I studied in college. Who knows when another opportunity like this will come along?

How do I convince my parents to let me go? I understand that it’s difficult because I’m their only child, but I need to leave and be on my own at some point in my life. I don’t want to miss this opportunity because they’re afraid to let me go. I have faith in my degree and myself. – Ready to Leave, Cleveland

DEAR READY TO LEAVE: Leaving home is a huge step toward independence; in your case, it’s exacerbated by your being an only child. Stay strong and follow your dream. Yes, this will likely be hard for you and your parents. Have some solace knowing that your parents will not be alone. They have each other. You will be fine because you have the values they taught you and your plans for your career. As long as you stay focused on your goals, you will be able to navigate your life and learn to make independent decisions.

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DEAR HARRIETTE: A friend of mine just got a facelift. We are around the age where these procedures are normal, but I would not go under the knife. Honestly, I don’t want to be seen in public with her with her face all wrapped up. I think walking around for weeks with your neck and chin compressed makes you a beacon for stares and judgment. I think women should not feel societal pressure to get face-lifts to look younger and better for their husbands.

I support my friend’s right to do whatever she wants, but I need a go-to excuse for when she tries to make plans with me. Any suggestions? – Under Wraps, Boston

DEAR UNDER WRAPS: Do your best to stop judging your friend. When you can accept that this is her choice and not yours, it will be easier for you to be with her, however she looks. You can choose not to engage the people who may be eying her curiously because of her bandages. It is on her to defend herself – or not.

— Lifestylist and author Harriette Cole is president and creative director of Harriette Cole Media. You can send questions to [email protected] or c/o Universal Uclick, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.