August 17, 2013

Not all faiths espouse gay marriage as rite

While same-sex couples can marry legally in 13 states, the landmark decisions change nothing in the eyes of churches.

By ANITA CREAMER McClatchy Newspapers

SACRAMENTO, Calif. - The congregation cheered.

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Rabbi Mona Alfi marries Dan Hoody, left, and Dave Felderstein at the Congregation B'nai Israel in Sacramento, Calif., during a brief window in 2008 when gay marriage was legal in the state – as it is once again.

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When Barbara Brecher and Terry Allen married in June 2008, during the brief window that year when same-sex marriage was legal in California, they asked the entire membership of Congregation B'nai Israel to witness the ceremony. Hundreds of congregants took them up on the invitation.

Senior rabbi Mona Alfi, a longtime supporter of same-sex unions, pronounced the couple legally wed, and the congregation erupted in applause.

"People went nuts," said Barbara Allen-Brecher, now 57, an administrative law judge. "They were hooting and hollering. Did I cry? Oh, of course."

What it meant to her to marry within her faith -- not just in the eyes of the state but also the eyes of her congregation -- is simple: It meant everything.

"I couldn't imagine not doing it that way," she said. "I can't express the joy we experienced having the opportunity to do it in the sanctuary."

Gay and lesbian couples can legally marry today in 13 states, including California. But if they want to marry within their faith, like Barbara and Terry Allen-Brecher, options vary widely from denomination to denomination across the religious spectrum.


From the viewpoint of America's religious institutions, the U.S. Supreme Court's recent landmark decisions on the federal Defense of Marriage Act and California's Proposition 8 changed nothing.

As Rick Schlosser, California Council of Churches executive director, said, the faiths that support same-sex marriage remain supportive, and those in opposition remain opposed.

"Marriage is a civil ceremony," he said. "Churches perform the religious ceremony and can be authorized to represent the state for the civil part.

"Essentially, the confusion comes when people think of marriage only as a religious ceremony."

Denominations change their positions slowly, Schlosser said, not in a matter of months but over years. And many religious bodies have yet to make any change in their stance on whether to include same-sex marriage as a rite.

Under the U.S. Constitution, they don't have to.

"There's no question of that," said Douglas NeJaime, a University of California, Irvine, law professor and expert on gender law issues. "They're constitutionally protected. No religious bodies will be asked by the state to perform marriages for same-sex couples."

Similarly, the Constitution allows denominations the freedom not to perform interracial marriages, but these days, experts said, those that refuse to marry interracial couples are considered out of touch with the times.

A California law that took effect in January reinforces the religious exemption granted to denominations that choose not to solemnize same-sex weddings.

"I view that as stating what's already law, but it comforts people," said NeJaime. "During the Proposition 8 campaign, there were people saying that churches would have to perform same-sex marriages. If you listened to them, you'd be worried."


Even so, churchgoers' opinions on same-sex marriage are slowly changing.

A recent Pew Research Center survey showed that the proportion of American congregants who think homosexuality is a sin has dropped to 45 percent in the past decade. Three-fourths of that group also said they oppose gay and lesbian marriage, while 84 percent of people who don't think it's sinful support same-sex marriage.

Some religious bodies, like Reform Judaism, the Episcopal Church and the Evangelical Lutheran Church of America, leave it up to individual congregations and clergy to decide. Others, like the Roman Catholic Church, expressly forbid it.

"The church position is that gays acting on their sexuality is wrong," said Monsignor James Murphy of the Sacramento Catholic Diocese."So we're against gay marriage. It's clear. That's not going to change."

Pope Francis' recent comments suggesting he would not judge priests simply because they have a homosexual orientation reflect a more compassionate tone, not a change in doctrine, Murphy said.

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